The way you speak to people determines what you get from them. It is hardly what you say to people that matter, but how you say it that’s more important. Everything and anything has been done; thus, what individuates you from the crowed is the “how”. You can do anything you please and people will remember what you did but also how you did it most of the time. I remember as I kid my mom used to get me to take out the trash, cook small meals, or clean the dishes I had used. I thank her for that now because it made me kitchen independent. But I remember how she would say it more than anything. If she said it gently without commanding me to do it, it got done faster. She soon realized this too and she got more out of me.
So, when you speak gently and lovinly to others, you will get the same tone most of the time. Don’t believe me? Start an argument right now, just pick somethig random and start yelling about it to the first person you see. What is likely to happen is that the person you are yelling at will start yelling back too. Soon, it will be a full blown argument and by the end of it, like a lot arguments, you will forget what it was about and laugh about how silly it really was. The same goes for the opposit. If someone is yelling, how do you get them to stop?
You will not get someone to stop yelling at you by yelling back at them. Instead, in a calm, cool voice, answer them with a gentle demeanor and eventually, your calmness will rub off on them and they will calm down too. Your voice is very powerful. When you listen to music, can you stand to listen to an artist you think cannot sing? I don’t think so. The same goes for the radio. And if you enjoy listening to a pleasant voice on the radio
then why not apply this simple principle in your life?
Don’t believe how powerful words are? I used to date this girl who used to use certain phrases about how being together was not a sure thing. And certain things she would do would demonstrate just that. Although I am usually not the type of person to fall prey to negativity, sometimes the resolve of another is just more powerful. Eventually, those words became our reality. So pay attention to what you say and how you say it. It is a tool that everyone has at their disposal that also sets those who know how to use it apart from those who haven’t mastered the art of the tongue yet. Language is poetry
and poetry is life.
I could be wrong. What say you?
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